Love and Respect – Just Another Counseling Book?

When I chose “Love and Respect” as my next book to review, I wasn’t sure what to expect. There are literally thousands of books written on the subject of marital intimacy and struggles relating thereto. However, I was blown away by the content contained within “Love and Respect”. Emerson Eggerichs  and his wife Sarah take an in-depth look at the REAL issue behind the struggles that couples face, and how to counteract it. Emerson refers to this as “the crazy cycle”, stating that “without love, she reacts without respect, without respect, he reacts without love”, thus causing the Crazy Cycle to spin. “Love and Respect” points out many of the common relational problems that men and women share, and shows how to look through the eyes of one’s spouse to see the real issue. Emerson gives one classic example of a communication issue: “When a woman says ‘I have nothing to wear’, it means she has nothing NEW. When a man says ‘I have nothing to wear’, it means he has nothing CLEAN.” This humorous anecdote shows a very small way in which men and women can miscommunicate, while saying the same phrase.
However, if there’s one thing that I would most highly recommend about this book, it’s that it gives the reader an insight into not only the opposite sex, but also into themselves and how their brain works. I cannot recommend this book highly enough; it should be read by EVERYONE, married or unmarried, who looks to have a genuine Christ-like relationship with spouse, parents, siblings, and friends. No, this is not “Just another counseling book”, and it WILL change your life.

Saturday, October 24th, 2009 Uncategorized

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